EMPOWERING to ALIGN YOUR LIFE AND CREATE THE FUTURE family, RELATIONSHIPS and life OF YOUR DREAMS…
“I thought I had it all figured out, until Kara touched under the surface and I met myself in a way I never had before.”
~ Steph, Counsellor, Brisbane ~
THE BENEFITS OF CONCSCIOUS UNCOUPLING™
Conscious Uncoupling refers to a mindset and approach to moving through relationship breakdowns and/or ending a romantic relationship with compassion, understanding, kindness and intentionality.
Whilst Conscious Uncoupling is a process that was designed for moving through and beyond break-ups, separation and divorce, the concepts and tools underpinning Conscious Uncoupling are beneficial across all relationship dynamics that involve breakdowns, from breakdowns within continuing romantic connections to the dissolution of business partnerships and litigious dispute.
Here are five key benefits of engaging in the Conscious Uncoupling™ 5 Step process:
Emotional Well-being: Conscious Uncoupling encourages and provides the tools for individuals to prioritize their emotional well-being:
(a) throughout relationship breakdowns during the relationship, pre-separation;
(b) throughout the separation process;
(c) in navigating the path to establishing new financial and/or parenting arrangements post-separation;
(d) navigating and maintaining a healthy parenting relationship and parenting arrangements until children reach adulthood; and
(e) navigating entering and creating foundations for new relationships to flourish and thrive.
It further promotes self-reflection, healing, and personal growth that creates the field for individuals to navigate these transitions with greater understanding, empathy, and care for themselves and their estranged spouse.
Reduced Conflict and Cost: By approaching relationship challenges, breakdowns and separation (including the path to new arrangements/agreements) with conscious uncoupling principles, couples can aim to minimize conflict and avoid turning the process into a battleground. The focus shifts from blame, resentment, and anger towards open communication, cooperation, and finding not just mutually agreeable solutions, but solutions that are beneficial to both parties. For those moving through separation and/or divorce, this co-operative approach also sees a reduction in the financial cost and stress to the parties and often sees parties in a far better financial position to move forward with on their separate, but often interwoven paths if children are involved.
Co-parenting Harmony and Healthier Children: For couples with children, conscious uncoupling can provide a foundation for healthy parenting and relationships with their children. For couples moving through separation, they are provided with not just the foundations to create a healthy co-parenting relationship, but the creation of a bi-nuclear family where the child/ren grows up with the understanding that they belong to one family unit as opposed to two. This can contribute to a more stable and nurturing environment for the children in which they feel a pervasive sense that they continue to belong in one family as opposed to a broken family. Ultimately, the process of Conscious separation and/or divorce can see the best outcome possible for the long-term well-being of your children.
That said, it is also acknowledged in conscious uncoupling that a bi-nuclear family is a personal preference and will not be desired by all or safe for all. Further having worked in family law for such a long time, I am well aware that it will not be safe or appropriate for all estranged spouses/parents to co-parent and that sometimes parallel or sole parenting arrangements are necessitated due to domestic violence and/or risk of harm.
As a Conscious Uncoupling™ coach, it is my role to generate the field of incredible possibility for my clients. However, the safety of my clients and any children comes first, and I always work with my clients to craft and generate a future that feels bright, safe and empowering for them to move forward with in spite of the challenges and breakdowns they have/are experiencing.
Closure and Acceptance: Conscious uncoupling acknowledges the reality that relationships change and evolve. It encourages individuals to accept the end of relationships dynamics and for those separation, to grieve and accept the end of the romantic partnership while finding closure and moving forward. By practicing acceptance and letting go, individuals can cultivate a sense of peace and begin the process of building a new life.
Personal Growth and Self-Awareness: Going through a conscious uncoupling process can lead to personal growth and increased self-awareness. It involves deep introspection, examining the patterns and dynamics within not just the most recent relationship breakdown, but past relationship breakdowns. Individuals are fully supported in taking radical self-responsibility, by taking accountability for one's own contribution to the relationship breakdown/s. This can provide valuable insights for future relationships and create the foundation to break negative cycles, thus allowing for more secure and healthy romantic partnerships and relationships as a whole in the future.
Given the benefits outlined above, the point needs to be made that even if the other party to a relationship is unwilling to engage in the process with you, you can still reap incredible benefits to your own growth, wellbeing and future by engaging in the process alone. In fact, the majority of individuals who engage in this process, do indeed embark the journey alone. With the support of a certified conscious uncoupling coach, those embarking a solo conscious uncoupling journey invariably report positive transformation in their lives and relationships, including with their estranged spouse.
Read on to dive deeper into the 5 Steps Process or if you are already familiar with the process, I invite you to review my Packages and Rates and Frequently Asked Questions sections of book your free 30-minute discovery call today and to start your Conscious Uncoupling Journey!
“I have just experienced the Conscious Uncoupling program with Kara and it has been life changing! Kara helped me take more ownership for my life, has liberated me from my past and helped me move towards the life I dream of. Kara is exceptionally professional (I assume from her legal days) and has a kind gentle manner which both helped steer my course for growth and resolution. The most profound change has been letting go of so much fear about moving on from a life that isn’t serving me and taking responsibility for it. Great job Kara, I highly recommend!!!.”
Felicty, North West Brisbane (6 March 2024)
Coaching programs
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Conscious Uncoupling 4 Month coaching Immersion $1,557 (AUD) Or FOUR monthly payments of $447 (AUD)
8 x 60-minute one-on-one (online) fortnightly sessions during which you will be supported through the certified Conscious Uncoupling™ 5-Step Process to consciously uncouple from your relationship and create space for an empowered future in which you and your family thrive!
1 x 60-minute one-on-one (online) future planning session to be used anytime in the 6 months following completion of the conscious uncoupling process.
Access to all guided meditations to revisit in your own time.
Access to recordings of sessions upon request.
Post-session email summary so that you can track your progress and allow you to feel full held during your sessions and to deeply immerse yourself into the process.
Journaling and Action Step prompts between sessions to help you to fully embody and integrate the offerings of this immersion.
Email support between sessions to provide clarity on the process.
FREE BONUS: The Break-Up Blue Print: Avoiding the Dark Side of Love
FREE BONUS: The Break-Up Blueprint: Financial Separation Made Easy
*The 5-Step Conscious Uncoupling™ process was created by Katherine Woodward-Thomas, International Relationship Expert and Psychotherapist by whom I was directly trained by. -
Phoenix Rising 6 month Extended Coaching Immersion $2,447 (AUD) or SIX Monthly Payments of $447 (AUD)
8 x 60-minute one-on-one online sessions including the 5-Step Conscious Uncoupling™ process to uncouple from your relationship and create space not just to discover an empowered thriving future for your family, but to support you in bringing this future to life as you continue to navigate your relationship breakdown.
4 x 60-minute one-on-one future planning and integration sessions to be used anytime in the 6 months following completion of the conscious uncoupling process
Access to all guided meditations to revisit in your own time.
Access to recording of sessions upon request.
Post-session summary to track your progress and allow you to fully immerse into your sessions.
Journaling and Action Step prompts between sessions to help you to fully embody and integrate the offerings of this immersion.
Access to a private group where you can share what is opening up for you in-between sessions and where I will provide ongoing support and guidance.
FREE BONUS: The Break-UpBlue Print: Avoiding the Dark Side of Love
FREE BONUS: The Break-Up Blueprint: Financial Separation Made Easy*The 5-step Conscious Uncoupling™ process was created by Katherine Woodward-Thomas, International Relationship Expert and Psychotherapist by whom I was directly trained by.
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CYCLE BREAKS A GROUP CONSCIOUS UNCOUPLING IMMERSION ~ COMING SOON ~
For more information on this group offering, please click the link below.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
~ Carl Jung
**Quote expressed in modern terms
Standard coaching session rates
4 pack of sessions
4 x 60 minute sessions - $747
Includes post-session summary and access to tools engaged during sessions. Recording available on request.
To make payment via PayPal Pay in 4, please purchase your package via our Shop.
Read On for my Conscious Uncoupling ™Coaching Offerings and Programs
6 pack of sessions
6 x 60 minute sessions - $1,097
Includes post-session summary and access to tools engaged during sessions. Recording available on request.
“I recently embarked on a journey with Kara who guided me through steps of Conscious Uncoupling, and the experience was truly transformative. One of the most beneficial aspects of the program was its emphasis on self-discovery and personal growth. Kara provided unwavering support and encouragement throughout the process, creating a safe and nurturing space. I became conscious of my part in relationships and gained the confidence to shape my future despite an unpleasant relational experience. I recommend this program to anyone seeking transformation and healing in their relationships.”
Stephanie, Moreton Bay (10 May 2024)
Update:
”I’m currently navigating a high-conflict Family Court process and it’s been a challenging journey. I have found so much comfort in what Kara offers, especially with her legal background. I used to approach things in a combative, defensive perspective, but since embracing conscious uncoupling, I’ve been able to find my centre and shift my mindset. Things that used to bother me about my co-parent no longer have power over me. Even when treated unfairly, I now approach situations with full authenticity, which has helped break down some barriers between us. At first I had to ‘fake it until you make it’ as being the bigger person felt uncomfortable. I’ve learned that it only takes one person to calm the waters and create change.”
Stephanie, Moreton Bay (11 August 2024)
CYCLE BREAKERS
A 4 MONTH GROUP CONSCIOUS UNCOUPLING COACHING IMMERSION
- COMING SOON -
“Kara provided such a safe space where I truly heard. I was able to process emotions that were deeply buried in a healthy way, and I left each session with a sense of clarity and calm that allowed me to stay true to my vision for a fair separation.”
~ Carolyn, Brisbane ~
“I highly recommend Conscious Uncoupling and Kara to anyone going through a separation. I am so glad that I did this program with Kara, as I don’t believe I would have been able to hold true to my vision for a fair separation without her support. I began the process before the official separation, as I was emotionally overwhelmed and felt really stuck regarding what to do and prioritise to ensure an amicable outcome. Kara provided such a safe and professional space, allowing me to fully process my deeply buried emotions in a way I had never experienced before. I left each session with a sense of calm and clarity. I have continued to work with Kara post-Conscious Uncoupling, as I navigate the ongoing process of separation. And I am glad to say I have held true to my vision.”
Carolyn, Brisbane (9 May 2024)
When should I commence the Conscious Uncoupling Coaching Program?
You can commence a conscious uncoupling coaching program at any time in your life. No matter where you are in your journey, the potential to transform your existing and future relationships is profound, including:
(a) as an individual who is aware that their attachment style, childhood wounds and/or past relationship wounds are impacting your capacity to establish or maintain happy, healthy, secure and conscious relationships;
(b) as a single person who has had past relationship challenges you wish to address before moving into your next romantic partnership;
(c) as a partnered individual in a relationship, who is experiencing relationship challenges;
(d) if you are contemplating or transitioning through a breakup or separation;
(e) if you have already separated/divorced and are in the process of navigating the path to new arrangements concerning property, finances or children;
(f) if you are a party to a court proceeding as the result of separation/divorce whether your role be as a party to the relationship, parent or grandparent; and/or
(g) you are navigating co-parenting or parallel parenting arrangements.
If you are contemplating separation, it would be most beneficial to commence the program or at least some conscious separation coaching before you embark upon the separation journey as you will have been provided the tools and skills to allow you to move through this journey in a conscious way from the outset creating the potential a path of the least harm and trauma being imparted. That said, it is never too late to embark on this journey and Conscious Uncoupling Coaching can generate the field that allows for the transformation of a high-conflict separation into one that is amicable, kind, supportive, respective and co-operative!Does my spouse/former spouse need to engage in a Conscious Uncoupling Program with me?
No, your spouse/former spouse does not need to engage in this process with you for the benefits to be gained. In fact, the coaching involved in Conscious Uncoupling is primarily self-focused as such there is always potential for phenomenal benefits to be gained, this is even true if you have no or limited contact with your estranged spouse.
That said, those who embark this journey side-by-side and fully commit to the process have the capacity to generate joint intentions and vows for the future of their relationship whether that be as friends, co-parents or both and this can be a very healing and positive process for all involved. If you and your spouse wish to embark this journey together, please be aware that the bulk of this process will be undertaken individually and with separate coaches.I have coach connections that I can recommend to your spouse to journey the process together.
The exception to this is that my Cycle Breakers is open to couples to journey together within the group container, however this is something that I will need to be made aware of in advance as you will both be required to enter specific agreements to ensure the container remains beneficial and safe for you both.
Who is a suitable candidate for Conscious Uncoupling Coaching?
The formal Conscious Uncoupling Coaching program requires the capacity for deep introspection, radical self-responsibility and accountability. It also requires a strong commitment to fully engage the steps and program in order to see the intended benefits and results. Relationship breakdowns are incredibly difficult and for many, the grief and impact on their mental health is overbearing, especially in the early stage. For this reason, not all individuals will be positioned to benefit from the process at the time they first discover Conscious Uncoupling, especially those struggling with acute mental health or addiction issues that are not stabilised. For some individuals, engaging in counselling or other support programs first may be necessary before they are positioned to embark upon and benefit from this particular transformative journey.
That said, conscious separation coaching may still be an option even if an individual is not yet placed to engage in the formal Conscious Uncoupling Program. To explore your options, book your free 30-minute discovery call below.How long does the Conscious Uncoupling Coaching Program take and how much time am I required to invest?
There are various options for engaging the Conscious Uncoupling Program but you can expect to complete the program in no less than 10-12 weeks. The recommended time investment to reap the most benefit of this program is roughly 2 hours a week including a fortnightly 60-minute coaching session, reading the required book, and completing the action steps and meditations between sessions.
How much contact will I have with Kara during my Coaching Program?
Contact with Kara during your program will vary depending on the program you have purchased. At a minimum, you will have contact with Kara for the number of coaching sessions included in the program, plus email access to answer any queries or concerns between sessions during business hours.
How do I pay?
Pay-as-you-go coaching sessions can be booked and paid for online via credit card or PayPal. Pay in 4 is available for PayPal payments. Direct deposit is also available upon request made to karaockendon@soulhealing.au
For Coaching Programs, an invoice will be issued upon completing the registration process following your Discovery Call. I accept direct deposits, credit cards and PayPal payments. Pay in 4 is available for PayPal. Please note that a 3% transaction fee applies for program payments made by credit card or PayPal.Please note that all pricing is stated in Australian dollars and international exchange rates may apply.
Is Conscious Uncoupling just for women?
No, Conscious Uncoupling is beneficial for all genders. However, two of my signature programs, Phoenix Rising and Divine Feminine, are women-only programs. My Conscious Uncoupling 4 month program is open to all genders and my upcoming group coaching offering will also be open to all genders.
What is the Refund Policy for Coaching Sessions and Programs?
Refunds and cancellations are made on a case-by-case basis within seven (7) days. No refunds or cancellations are provided for change of mind or more than seven (7) days post-commencing a program. For one-on-one programs, extensions of time may be provided to complete the program for up to 12 months post-commencement. Any queries should be directed to: karaockendon@soulhealing.au
What is the difference between a Coach and a Counsellor/Psychologist?
Coaches and counsellors/psychologists serve different roles, although there can be some overlap depending on the context and individual practices. Here are the primary differences between a coach and a counsellor:
(a) Purpose and Focus:
A coach primarily focuses on helping individuals or groups achieve specific goals, whether personal or professional. Coaches often work in areas like career development, leadership skills, performance improvement, and life transitions.
A counsellor focuses on addressing emotional, psychological, and mental health issues. They help individuals explore their feelings, thoughts, and behaviours to resolve personal or interpersonal problems, manage mental health conditions, and improve overall well-being.
(b) Training and Credentials:
Coaches may come from various backgrounds and may not always have formal training or certifications, although many do pursue specialized training programs and certifications in coaching methodologies. Coaching certifications can vary widely in terms of requirements and standards.
Counsellors typically have advanced degrees in psychology, counselling, social work, or related fields. They undergo extensive training in theories of human behaviour, psychotherapy techniques, ethical guidelines, and often require licensure to practice independently.
(c) Scope of Practice:
Coaches usually work within a specific scope of practice defined by their expertise and training. They focus on setting and achieving goals, providing accountability, offering guidance, and helping clients develop skills and strategies to overcome obstacles.
Counsellors address a broader range of issues related to mental health and emotional well-being. They assess, diagnose, and treat various mental health conditions, including depression, anxiety, trauma, addiction, and relationship problems, using evidence-based therapeutic techniques.
(d) Client Dynamics:
Coaches often work with clients who are generally functioning well but seek improvement in specific areas of their lives. Clients may include professionals, executives, athletes, entrepreneurs, and individuals undergoing career transitions.
Counsellors work with clients experiencing a wide range of psychological and emotional challenges. Clients may seek counselling for issues such as depression, stress, grief, trauma, addiction, relationship difficulties, and family conflicts.
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